2nd November 2017

It has been a quiet day in Londres for me, which is to say I have had a little more mental space than the last few weeks. It was pleasant to have the time to bake and cook. Londres life makes it very easy to go days at a time without eating at home. I sometimes feel tension accumulating inside me, and realise that it is nothing pathological, but rather my body quite correctly telling me that I have been driving it to do a little too much. I try to listen to it a little bit more than in the past.

Listening to my body is made more difficult by my involvement in the renters power project, which can suck up effectively infinite amounts of time. It has its rewards, and I am enjoying in particular the chance to help structure a large organisation, but it would be easy to let it take over. And for what? Some drive for respect? Some need for attention? Nothing good, that’s for sure, despite the worthwhile end.

This afternoon I had to dig out some old documents, and in doing so discovered some old writing. What I have written about over the years has not changed a lot, but the approach has changed. I now try to write from my interactions with others, rather than from debates within my head. I am often surprised, looking at old writing, at how often it appears to me now that my focus was too narrow. I was too caught up in what was directly before me, or what was immediately inside me. Perhaps this is a common state, but I suspect I have been more afflicted by it than many. I have always tried to look outwards, but not always successfully.

2nd November 2017

29th October 2017

Death, it seems to me, is fundamentally incomprehensible. A sentient mind cannot get to grips with the extinction of sentience. It is not what it was designed for. Even religion – the traditional attempts to come to terms with death – mostly evade the issue. Rather than face the extinction of consciousness, they pretend the extinction doesn’t happen. Likewise the reasons for death are similarly unreadable to us. The Universe is not here to give us reasons, let alone reasons for events we are incapable of grasping.

I am on my way back from Londres and thinking of this because on the Southern Coast, as the anniversary of the death of my sister approaches, some of my family are still puzzling over the riddle of it, as though it were possible to solve it. If the above acceptance of the incomprehensibility of death sounds morbid to some, I don’t find it so. The continual search for meaning where none can be found strikes me as more morbid.

I think it is a useful quality to have, to be able admit that a problem is insoluble, that the riddle will be with you forever, to recognise that you can only skate over the puzzle and continue onwards. This particular puzzle always comes back of course, which is why I don’t blame anyone for struggling with it, but it is rather like watching someone wading bravely through knee-high mud in a direction you know to lead only towards more and deeper mud.

Besides the theme of death, the weekend on the coast was fine enough. The sun shone, the hedges got cut, and the Silversmith and I found a patch of sloes large enough to unlock several bottles of sloe gin for Christmas. To top it all off, we all got an extra hour of time for free. They should give out time more generously every day.

29th October 2017

17th October 2017

The apocalypse came to Londres yesterday. The sky grew dark and red, and a mischievous wind followed it. Smoke and dust covered the city and people scurried around with glances upward as though in fear. Meanwhile I found myself caught up in the errors of others and the paperwork of groups I have aligned myself with. The apocalypse, for me, seemed like a never-ending avalanche of documents and forms and messages. In the last two days I have sent 26 emails from my personal account, and yet more in my role at the Tree Service. In addition I have edited four very significant documents, sent texts, messages, made phone calls. It was the written words that took up time.

I found myself thinking about why so much time goes into documents. It is as though they have a magical power. At the end of the world yesterday, it felt as though that power were sinister, overwhelming, trying to bury me. I thought about it again today going into work on my velocipede, the sky returned to its normal hues. Why do I do it? To my surprise, there was an answer, of sorts. A child, peering out from beneath a huge pile of papers, trying to establish relationships with people.

It is an odd feature of our culture that we would choose this method. I suppose it is something to do with the scale of our society. But not everyone does it, so there’s more to it than that. Here in Londres at the end of the world I appear to be in a section of society very keen on documents.

17th October 2017

13th October 2017

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It’s another gloomy day in Londres, one in a line of gloomy days. The only relief from the gloom is shooting around the streets of Londres on my new velocipede. Yesterday I was so busy I failed to notice the time of an event, arrived late, and did not get in. The Red Flash had to leave early to re-join me but she didn’t seem to hold my uncharacteristic lateness against me. It was good to hear she has found a job.

Today in the offices of the Tree Service I had a conversation about democracy. Consulting residents about their trees, said the manager, is a mistake. It is our job to be experts and make the tough decisions. Asking people’s opinions is what gave us Brexit. QED.

This isn’t an overt authoritarianism at play, but a couple of things conspire to produce this sort of attitude. One is institutions that were not, in truth, built for democracy. The other is a culture that is not built for democracy. In institutions not built for democracy, consultation appears as an add-on, bolted on to a system of decision-making that pre-dates widespread agreement that ordinary people must have a voice. As for the problems of culture: to believe in democracy is to understand the need for patience, it is to see that right and wrong may be a matter of perspective, it is to subordinate the ego to a wider process. None of these are strong points of our culture. They are certainly not taught in school. Londres is formed by a combination of the institutions and the culture, and so it evolves undemocratically, beyond our ability to control.

In the meantime my week has seen a little anxiety about projects I am involved in or initiating. Nothing terrible or unmanageable, just a low level feeling of too much work needing to be done, of having to achieve things within hierarchies that make me uncomfortable, of time tick-ticking and a world moving on. But achievement is a strange thing – what does it mean? Is it sometimes not achievement we aim for but a desire to impress? Who are we trying to impress? Who am I trying to impress?

Asking these questions feels awkward and the answers aren’t simple. For the moment it feels like it is worth simply continuing to ask.

13th October 2017

9th October 2017

It has been a week of learning and researching. Good as it was, I have not had enough time to myself. I have been learning how to organise according to a particular school of thought, because I am interested in building active power blocs in Londres to oppose the landlords and financial lords. The problem with courses like this is they can’t help but propose a template. It isn’t immediately clear to what degree the ways of behaving apply to everyone. People interact in very different ways, and organising well on this model requires, I suspect, intensely outgoing people. I am only partly outgoing: more so when I have more energy, less so when worn down by work or lack of sleep. I feel I would only ever be half a good organiser as a result. This isn’t to do myself down – I have strengths elsewhere, I like to think.

As a result of conversations with the Oracle by the Tamesis I have been thinking a lot about how I see myself and my strengths and weaknesses. My confidence can fluctuate and it is interesting to think about the history of this, and the effect on myself. We all look for approval I think, but the question of how much and what type of approval we want is revealing. I am slow to trust people, and slow to want their approval as a result, yet there is some need for approval still, even with no-one to give it. Most of the time I’ll suppress it or try to hide it – who finds a need for approval attractive? – but it pops up in strange places, not willing to remain totally hidden. It is uncomfortable to be thinking of this when well into one’s thirties, but it is better, I think,  to consider it now than never at all.

So I have had much on my mind this week. It makes me want to get out of Londres for a day on my velocipede, where for a while it can be all about my legs and what they can do. Legs have the advantage of being simpler than brains.

9th October 2017

28th September 2017

A few days ago I had a meeting with a Londres academic who potentially has a lot of power to make decisions about my life. During and immediately after the meeting I felt fine, but a little later I suddenly felt the vulnerability of my position. I lay awake in bed worrying about my mistakes, and how they might be interpreted. I worried that a breakdown in confidence halfway through the meeting would be looked upon poorly. I felt suddenly intensely jealous of people whose confidence never cracks.

It reminded me of what the Oracle by the Thamesis said to me recently about how one’s attitudes towards others often stem from one’s attitude towards oneself. What does jealousy of another mean except that you are not content with yourself and where you are? What does anger show except that you feel threatened?

I came home to Coldblow Farm last night and fell into a conversation with The Builder about vulnerabilities. It felt good to admit some of our own to each other. It is typically masculine to hide all vulnerabilities, to pretend they are not there, even to build strategies of aggression to ensure they can never be seen. To be made to feel vulnerabilties is not pleasant, though the Oracle tells me it can be important part of self-development. The vulnerabilities of the inner child can be felt and absorbed by the adult, and so become better integrated into everyday life. Or something.

The world does not encourage this, Londres does not encourage this, and even the left does not encourage this. Social success so often comes with a cast-iron confidence – or a facade of it – and vulnerability shown in a discussion easily reads as lack of confidence. I am rather ambivalent about allowing feelings of vulnerability that could reduce my ability to work with my peers. Perhaps in time the vulnerabilities will seem less important, will seem laughable, a mere trifle to be stepped over. Perhaps. But it also seems to me that we all need to change, to accept vulnerability in others without it turning into a questioning of their authority to speak.

28th September 2017